A massive number of people never join a small group because, when they verbalize an honest excuse, we don’t have a wise answer for them. Below you’ll find fourteen excuses people use when they don’t want to become part of a small group. You’ll also find a wise response to each excuse.
- I don’t know the Bible well enough.
Response: No one knows everything about the Bible, even pastors. All of us are there to learn the Bible together.
- I’m an introvert.
Response: Many of us in the group are introverts who don’t like to talk in public and you won’t have to until you choose to.
- I’m not comfortable around strangers.
Response: You won’t be strangers very long. I know because I’m just like you. In just a few weeks you’ll feel right at home.
- I don’t have time.
Response: We all have time for what we make time for. It’s up to you if you choose to make small group a priority or not.
- I’m afraid a question will be asked that I can’t answer.
Response: Every week the group leader asks a question I can’t answer. I just let someone else in the group answer that question.
- I don’t have anyone to watch my kids during the meeting.
Response: We have childcare at the meeting for your kids. In fact, they’ll get to hang out with other kids whose parents are in the group. Your kids will have a great time.
- My kids will interrupt the meeting.
Response: Sometimes our kids come to the room we’re meeting in and interrupt us. We don’t care about that because we all love our kids and will love yours too.
- I’m not comfortable praying aloud.
Response: You won’t be called on to pray aloud. You can if you want to but you won’t be forced or asked to. If you want me to I’ll let the group leader know about this before you come to the first meeting.
- I don’t understand the terms other Christians already know.
Response: None of us know all the Christianese that people use. When we don’t know what some term means we just ask the person who said it what it means.
- My husband won’t go with me.
Response: No problem. We’d be honored to have you without your husband. A lot of people are in groups without their spouses coming with them. Sometimes it’s because the husband travels for work or for some other reason. We’d be honored if you’d join us and I promise, you’ll feel right at home if you do.
- My wife won’t go with me.
Response: No problem. We’d be honored to have you without your wife. A lot of people are in groups without their spouses coming with them. Sometimes it’s because the wife travels for work or for some other reason. We’d be honored if you’d join us and I promise, you’ll feel right at home if you do.
- I’m allergic to most pets.
Response: We’ll be sure to find a group for you where the hosts don’t have any pets.
- I’m single and most groups are made up of couples with kids.
Response: Jesus’ church is really diverse. I promise, you’ll feel welcomed and be treated as just another Christian friend if you’ll give the group a try.
- They’re going to want me to talk about myself and I’m not confortable with that.
Response: You don’t have to talk about anything until you’re ready to. The group leader isn’t going to force you to talk about yourself or anything else.